Have You Hit Rock Bottom Yet?

Rock bottom can be a beautiful start to a new chapter but when someone is actually going through it, it  doesn’t remotely feel like a comfortable place to be in. Some of us will face the ‘Rock’ in our personal or professional life. In a split second the world will spin out of control and there isn’t a damn rock you can hold on to that will make it stop. What sucks is that Superman or Flash won’t come save the day either!!

What you are going through is not original, not these days anyways. Most of us won’t admit it because people don’t want to be judged or criticized. They would rather ignore the problem and hope it goes away. They might be in a bad marriage or working at a lousy job just struggling to get by. And then one day it hits them like a ton of bricks, everything has fallen apart. They wonder why or how they got into this mess and look for ways to lay blame onto anyone. Well, whether we like it or not, it happened. Now the concern is how does anyone get out of it.

Here are Six Rock Bottom truths I learned when I was at the lowest point of my life:

1. Not all people (even the closest to you) have your best interests at heart. Some would like to see you fail for selfish reasons. They are either hiding from their own failures or don’t like someone doing better than them or taking their spotlight.
2. Support only comes into play when you are buying a bra. If you are looking for support by others, you might as well wait for taxes to be abolished. The definition of support like most words is a figment of one’s perception.
3. When the tough gets going so do your friends/family etc. It’s at this very point in your life when you know who is true to you. Don’t be surprised when the list dwindles. This is a good thing as you don’t need anyone bringing you down. Most people can’t find one true friend let alone a short list of them.
4. Once you fall on your ass the only thing to do is get up unless you need a nap. Don’t wait for anyone to give you a hand unless you want them to clap for you. Being down only allows you to get up and make your own move.
5. Nobody likes to take responsibility for their actions. They would rather be hit by lightning than admit defeat. Placing blame on others is either a bad habit or the latest fashion. We are not perfect; we all have our faults, own up to it and take responsibility. Take a stand to earning your worth as we are all capable. Fear equals false evidence appearing real.
6. Asking for advice is like asking for a bullet. Some people don’t have the smarts to use the weapon let alone pull the trigger. There are those who will preach to others but don’t practice it on themselves. There are a few good souls out there who are genuinely concerned and willing to lead or guide you in the right direction….but most are likely to point you towards a forest in the dark with a blindfold on.

So, what can you do? Stop to reflect and learn from your mistakes and figure out how you can change the situation you are in. Life is about learning, so if we are going to do it, do it for the right reason – because YOU earned it and are so worth it.